4 Ways to Refresh you after BREAKUP

Breakup is often the most excruciating experience to all brokenhearted. Unless two people in love want to give another try, breakup is always the first option when a testing moment comes in a relationship or when two people realized they don't match. There is no perfect and easy way to get over it. But to accept and let it go can help face the reality of breakup.

 

While it's true that breakup is unavoidable as it happens to everyone, there are 4 ways to refresh oneself as you are heading to healing moments.

 

1.)  Cry and feel the pain.  Sometimes it is tempting not to cry to avoid the feeling of pain. Going to bars for a drink with friends or going to a party is somewhat the best option to forget it. But that remedy never last. The more we avoid to face the pain the more it haunts us. To feel the pain of losing someone we loved and cry are the best relief to release all the emptiness and hurts.

 

2.)  Be a watcher and not a judge.  It is common to replay in our head the sweet memories until to the painful parting scenes. Self-pity, blaming, feeling betrayed and hatred are commonly the feelings that engulfed us especially when we thought that we made our best to make a relationship blossom. Since we have no control over the events, our best choice is to simply replay and watch the scenes of the past without judging negatively yourself and your ex-lover. The more we judge against the situations and someone involved the more we create some negative feelings that consequently create an impact of disappointment and pain.

 

3.)  Write a positive letter to your ex-lover. This is very hard to do especially when all we wanted to do at the moment is to curse him/her forever. However, if our minds look at the situation without judging, all the positive outlook and feeling will naturally flow out without your efforts to do so. To experience it fully, write a letter of forgiveness, gratitude for moments of past love and best wishes for both of you.

 

4.) Connect yourself to the Source of love.  Breakup is not just a painful experience if we try to look closely what's going on. Sometimes, it happens  to help both lovers understand that they are not meant for each other and they've got to keep seeking their true lover. As you understand that there is really a time to love and lost it, grab the chance to reflect instead of cursing your love life and your ex. Be willing once again to connect yourself to the source of love, God or whoever you believe deep within you. In such a way, you are refreshing yourself as you open up your heart to let love overflow from the source once again. It's God's love that keeps on healing the brokenhearted after losing it. So keep holding on as you move on.

 

How do you get over a breakup?

  A legal kiss is never
as good as a stolen one.



2.
even though she doesn’t believe in love,
he’s determined to call her bluff <3



3.
I always think of you before I fall asleep. The words you said,
the way you looked. The things we laughed about, the silent
moments we shared. And when I dream, I’ll dream of you.
Because it’s about you, it’s always about you.


love and other drugs. <3

4.
The things we crave most are the
things that destroy us the quickest.



5.
You gotta deal with the rain to get to the sun.
It’s just been raining on my parade for too long.
©onlyinmydreams89



6.
If two people who love each other
as much as we do can't be together
then there's no hope for anyone.



7.
It's the same old song broadcasted
on the radio saying, I'm not worth your time.



8.
we Love ourselves even after doing many mistakes…
then how can we hate others for their one mistake?



9.
10 ways to love:
listen, speak, give, pray, answer,
share, enjoy, trust, forgive, promise.



10.
boy: crying means your weak
girl: no, crying means you care.

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Laugh when you can.
 Apologize when you should.
let go of what you can't change.
 Love deeply 
 forgive quickly.
 Take chances and give your everything.
Life is too short to be anything but happy.
 You have to take the good with the bad.
 Love what you got.
Always remember what you had.
Forgive, but don't forget. Learn from your
mistakes but never regret.
People change and things go wrong,
 but always remember life goes on.

Listen to your HearT :

today, i finally figured out why i hurt.

people say that when you love someone so much, it hurts.
i believe i have finally found my true meaning of that today.
i hurt because i love you.
i have trust in you.
i fear you.
i want to make sacrifices and sacrifice myself for you and your sake.
i will gladly hurt for you.
i will gladly give everything to you.

i have placed my heart in the palms of your hands

i trust you will guard it, my Rabb.

and when you deem it fit, you will place my heart in the hands of he who

deserves me.

i trust you are guarding my heart.

everyone says love hurts, but that is not true.
loneliness hurts. rejection hurts. losing someone hurts. envy hurts.
everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality,
love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain
and makes someone feel wonderful again.
love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.

if a girl can put up with you through your worst days,
and still stick with you and all your crap, then it's kind
of obvious that you shouldn't let her go.



2.
It's better that we're not talking anymore, not
pretending everything is okay. Because for once
I feel like you aren't faking your feelings for me.



3.
How in the world did I find someone like you? Why in
the world after all that we've been through? If you
weren't here with me right now, then I don't know
what I'd do. In all of the world, I found my heart in you.



4.
I live for those moments when you least expect
the most beautiful thing in the world to happen.



5.
This is how it goes. I will respect those who
respect me, and forget those who forget me.
Simple as that.



6.
you almost convinced me
you were gonna stick around, but
everyone knows, almost doesn't count.



7.
The worst thing you could do for
love is deny it. So when you find that
special someone, don't let anyone or
anything get in your way.



8.
he's loud and he's truthful,
and he sees more in her than
she's comfortable admitting to.



9.
I want to be your last, first kiss.
I want to be your last, first love.


yet another new photograph that i found in my own time :) <3

10.
i have come to realize that hes just a guy, a SPECIAL
one maybe, but hes not mine. i DONT need to do things
to make him love ME again. if he wanted to, he WOULD.

Sometimes a girl doesn't
need anything more than
your hand in hers,& your
thumb gently tracing circles
on the back of her hand.



2.
the world points and laughs at my flaws.
but i know that when God looks at me, he
smiles and says "that's my daughter.
my unique and beautiful creation" :)



3.
being without him would lead her to fall
short in life, because life is not complete
when a part of your heart is missing.


 you're welcome ;)

4.
boy: why don’t you LIKE me?
girl: i do like you. it’s just…
boy: just what?!
girl: i’m so afraid to fall again
boy: this is different.
girl: how is this any different?
boy: because this time, i’ll catch you.


 you're welcome ;)

5.
love with all your heart. give with all your soul.
hold on as tight as you can & just NEVER LET GO.



6.
some people walk into your life,
& immediately you know that
they're supposed to be there



7.
the world may never know every detail of your life,
but that’s because they don’t care. but when you find
the ones that want to know every detail, they’re the keepers.



8.
you and me; the second most perfect combination
of three words in theentire English language.
what's the first? >>> I love you.



9.
When I'm around him, I can't breathe.
And when I'm not around him,
I miss the feeling of air escaping my lungs.



10.
      I love it when we don't say a word.
       Even silence has it's own melody.

sometimes, i feel like i don't belong where i am and that i have the wrong people in my life. i get this feeling, like i'm an outsider even when i'm being included or that i'm always around people who don't know me at all. then i see you smile at me and i don't mind being invisible to the rest of the world, i realize i'll always feel alone without you around. at first you think it’s great you’re talking to him again, but then you start talking about things that happened before, bringing back old memories, and then you realize how much you really miss him and you get to thinking you really want him back, but you remember he doesn’t need you like you need him, and it hurts. I don't know, i mean, i want to be his friend. but then again, i don't. you know? i mean how can you simply be friends with someone when every time you look at them you're thinking about how much more you really want. * Sometimes you just need to talk to that one person who will let you talk and ramble, listen to you complain and look like an idiot. but still love you the same. * you know who you are <3 It's not supposed to happen. she's supposed to find someone who's much better for her.but instead, she's still stuck on you. I always think of you before I fall asleep. The words you said, the way you looked. The things we laughed about, the silent moments we shared. And when I dream, I’ll dream of you. Because it’s about you, it’s always about you. *ohmygod. Do your heart a favor, love. Let him in. Let him take you by the hand. He’s going to wrap you in his arms and you’ll never feel the same. He’s going to teach you every dip and every turn. He’s going to love you and you’re going to let him. Just give him the chance and you’ll soon learn that you’re falling for him just as quickly as you promised you never would. **  so it's like this: you have to have the nicest jeans, or the cutest purse, or say the newest thing so that it catches on. you have to be skinny, you have to buy this, wear this, say that, be on his side, her side, be neutral, have white teeth, have straight teeth. your hair can't be frizzy and you can't wear that because it just doesn't 'work' anymore. you have to go toparties, be friends with everyone, trust no one. pose like this, smile like that, tilt your head this way, and put your hand on your hip because that's just how it is.and let me just say, fuck all of that. <-- fuck the world & fuck society. this quote makes my life. ^ i have the same lips as the girl on the left. I saw your name light up my phone, and i swear to you, my heart started pounding If you're looking for love, I'm standing right in front of you. **<3   But when I look in the mirror, I see a girl who’s been through so much and yet still finds a way to smile at the past. She still loves with all her heart, or what’s left of it, and when you see her walk down the hall I can guarantee you she’ll have her head up high, faking a smile just one last time at all those who try to break her but never will. *mememe.   Day 1 - 10 people who have/had impacted your life and why Day 2 - 9 memories you can’t leave behind Day 3 - 8 things that are on your mind right now Day 4 - 7 bad habits Day 5 - 6 lies Day 6 - Name 5 ex boyfriends/girlfriends and which one meant the most to you? Day 7 - 4 phrases you say a lot Day 8 - 3 confessions Day 9 - 2 quotes/sayings/songs etc. that keep you motivated Day 10 - Write about the 1 person you constantly think about. Who’s this person and why? 1. "no we dont like eachother.." 2. i dont care what you do. 3. i dont miss him. 4. i hate to wakeup early 5. i dont wanna job. 6. im completely fine with my family being fucked. fact; ten is my lucky number, for many reasons.

i like people who have a sense of individuality.
i love expression and anything awkward and imperfect,
because that's natural, and that's real.


two.
we are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others…
that in the end, we become disguised to ourselves.


three.
be careful though, because if you start to believe that bad things
happen for a reason, it hurts that much more when they don't.


four.
you decide every moment of every day
who you are and what you believe in.
you get a second chance, every second.



five.
the best type of miracle a friendship can make is
being able to grow up without growing apart.



six.
there’s a difference between what we long for,
what we settle for, and who we are meant for.



seven.
everything happens for a reason, whether its good or bad.
it always turns out to be good for something.



eight.
when you figure out love is all that matters after all,
it sure makes everything else seem so small.



nine.
your life is defined by opportunities…
even the ones you miss.



ten.
it's not what you do once in a while,

it's what you do day in and day out that makes the difference.