4 Ways to Refresh you after BREAKUP

Breakup is often the most excruciating experience to all brokenhearted. Unless two people in love want to give another try, breakup is always the first option when a testing moment comes in a relationship or when two people realized they don't match. There is no perfect and easy way to get over it. But to accept and let it go can help face the reality of breakup.

 

While it's true that breakup is unavoidable as it happens to everyone, there are 4 ways to refresh oneself as you are heading to healing moments.

 

1.)  Cry and feel the pain.  Sometimes it is tempting not to cry to avoid the feeling of pain. Going to bars for a drink with friends or going to a party is somewhat the best option to forget it. But that remedy never last. The more we avoid to face the pain the more it haunts us. To feel the pain of losing someone we loved and cry are the best relief to release all the emptiness and hurts.

 

2.)  Be a watcher and not a judge.  It is common to replay in our head the sweet memories until to the painful parting scenes. Self-pity, blaming, feeling betrayed and hatred are commonly the feelings that engulfed us especially when we thought that we made our best to make a relationship blossom. Since we have no control over the events, our best choice is to simply replay and watch the scenes of the past without judging negatively yourself and your ex-lover. The more we judge against the situations and someone involved the more we create some negative feelings that consequently create an impact of disappointment and pain.

 

3.)  Write a positive letter to your ex-lover. This is very hard to do especially when all we wanted to do at the moment is to curse him/her forever. However, if our minds look at the situation without judging, all the positive outlook and feeling will naturally flow out without your efforts to do so. To experience it fully, write a letter of forgiveness, gratitude for moments of past love and best wishes for both of you.

 

4.) Connect yourself to the Source of love.  Breakup is not just a painful experience if we try to look closely what's going on. Sometimes, it happens  to help both lovers understand that they are not meant for each other and they've got to keep seeking their true lover. As you understand that there is really a time to love and lost it, grab the chance to reflect instead of cursing your love life and your ex. Be willing once again to connect yourself to the source of love, God or whoever you believe deep within you. In such a way, you are refreshing yourself as you open up your heart to let love overflow from the source once again. It's God's love that keeps on healing the brokenhearted after losing it. So keep holding on as you move on.

 

How do you get over a breakup?